Major progress can only occur when you get out of your own way. It’s only when you trust yourself that you will take great risks. When you believe in yourself, and in your own resilience, you can make great things happen.
If your dream or idea is good enough to bring to life, you must be willing to starve while you feed it and help it grow
Sometimes, the only way to push yourself beyond your limitations is to cast away the safety net.
The readiness to make quick decisions that may have painful consequences is a crucial ingredient for success. Trusting that you will be clever enough to solve unforeseen problems requires belief in yourself AND a willingness to mop up if you don’t (JW always said, “Everyone wants to lead the parade, but no one wants to sweep up after the elephants”).
The boldest things you will do in this life will be done unconsciously, as if by reflex or natural response
You build trust in yourself in the same way you build a muscle; with consistent practice and training. The world class golfer spends thousands of hours learning and thinking about her sport so that she may forget it all when she takes a swing. She’s not thinking about the mechanics of her swing, the lie of the ball or gallery watching; she steps up to the ball, silences the voices in her head, lets her training take over and just lets it rip.
“The bad news is: you’re falling through the air, nothing to hang on to, no parachute. The good news is: there’s no ground.” – Buddhist Proverb
There will be moments when you doubt yourself or question your resolve. The very reason for me writing a book is born from this sort of insecurity.
I recall JW once telling me that he wished he had the courage that I had to go out into the world on my own at the age of 17 to do the things that I did. This meant a lot coming from a man who had built several successful businesses, overcome monumental personal challenges and had been a role model to so many people.
In my darkest hour, it was my own example, my own life’s history, that I used as the inspiration to press forward. I was able to believe in myself again as I reflected on all of the times I had re-made myself before. I didn’t need anyone to tell me how to get right, I just had to remind me to be me.
This work doesn’t have to be the best… But it has to be your best (so far)
The only advice I would offer to kids: whatever you want to be, be the absolute best you can be at it. Whether that be a banker, pianist, street sweeper, teacher, police officer or panhandler; apply everything you have toward whatever you choose to do. Anything less is a fool’s errand that will lead to bitterness and discontent.
My hope is that my kids boldly follow what they feel inspired to do, regardless of the financial implications. That they would invest their whole heart in their chosen endeavor and surround themselves with people that support and encourage them to reach their full potential.
Do as you say, not as I do…
I am happy to know that they have the courage to stand up in the face of what they know to be incorrect/unjust/inhumane and call it out for what it is. Even as it relates to their dear ol’ Dad, they are unafraid of expressing their true thoughts and feelings. I respect their opinions when they are based in experience and thoughtful consideration of ALL of the available evidence.